I read this really awesome article about “slut-shaming”, specifically discussing the whole Kristin Stewart debacle. Personally, it’s no one’s business who she fucked or what her and Robert Pattenson decide to do with their lives.

It’s interesting that the director with whom she slept with kind of got off scot free. I’m sure his marriage is on the rocks at the moment, but all the crazy twi-hards have turned their beady eyes on Stewart, who isn’t in trouble for fucking herself.

People forget that women are sexual creatures. We all have wants and desires that sometimes aren’t exactly on the high road.

I think that Eve still hasn’t been forgiven for stealing that apple all those years ago. If a woman wants to have lots of sex (or even a little…) she’s called a slut. The man on the other end of that is called a player and is revered.

The slut walk organization that protests against victim blaming in cases of rape points out that a woman should be able to dress how she wants without being called a slut or a whore, or being assaulted by men who think that all she wants a stiff cock.

In the media, sexiness is defined by bared skin, ample breasts, lots of cleavage and tight clothing. This is reflected in society where women dress this way in order to feel sexy, because they are told this is what men want.

I will add this disclaimer that I in no way would ever tell a woman that she looks like a slut or that she needs to cover up. If a woman feels good about herself then I will certainly not tell her that she is wrong. I only want to express my opinion that states that society’s definition of “sexy” is a bit harmful.

Society and the media have set these standards. It is therefore unfortunate that when women don’t meet these standards, they aren’t considered attractive and are shunned.

 

To me, confidence is sexy. If you can strut your stuff down the sidewalk in a turtle neck and long pants because you know you’re hot and deserve the best, then you will probably turn heads.

To bring all this back to the purpose of this blog, I will bring up movies that have included “sexy” female characters, dressed in tight clothing, pouty lips and displaying hip-swaying flirtatious skills. I recently re-watched Domino with Keira Knightly where she plays the lead character, complete with tight leather pants and low cut tops. She is hired for her looks, gives a lap dance on her first job and seems to swim a lot in ill-fitting bathing suits….Sure, she’s sexy. What’s wrong with feeling sexy? But, that’s all she is.

The movies, Sucker Punch, Catwoman (gah..) and Resident Evil (the newer one with Ali Larter and Mila Jovovich running in spraying water, slo-mo style..) also follow this style of showing “sexy” women as main characters.

This is why I made this blog. Female characters are being created to be sexy the way Hollywood intended.

Just walk into any Adult store and you will find the skimpy, fluffy, pink, feathery outfits that look like they should fit on a Chihuahua and one can see what society wants woman to do to feel sexy.

Ladies and gentleman, slut-shaming is a real issue. It results in women being blamed for rape and basing a woman’s worth on what she is wearing. Do what YOU want to feel sexy, even if that means wearing revealing clothing, as long as it’s for YOU and not what you think people want you to wear.

Sexy is what you make it, not what someone else thinks would look nice on YOUR body.

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About Mighty Damsels

I am a sick and tired nerd. Male characters have dominated the action/sci-fi/fantasy genres for far too long. No more will women be in distress, cast as the "girlfriend" or made to wear tight leather pants. Ladies! Raise up your swords, M16's, phaser guns and pens! Mightydamsels.wordpress.com

4 responses »

  1. leahandsam says:

    the whole feminist thing really annoys me, but i totally agree that the idea that women are sluts because they have sex is atrocious and unjust. men can be just as slutty as women and no one gives a shit.

    • Totally not being judgmental, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but what exactly about feminism annoys you?
      I really welcome discussions on any side of any argument.

      • leahandsam says:

        umm well i guess its the feminists themselves that annoy me. im all for equality, but i feel like feminists are taking it a bit too far. i can shave my legs if i want to, and wear pretty dresses and heels and makeup, but feminists seem to think that that means i am conforming to an anti feminist view on life. i agree that men and women are not treated equally in this society, but that doesnt mean women can just take over, men need to have a say as well.im all for everyone having their own opinions and thats fine, but i feel like some people are shoving their views on to others, and i really dont like to do that with my own opinions.

  2. I agree that there are a group of radical feminists out there that fit the description you just gave. They give a bad name to the rest of us, which is why most people are afraid to identify as feminist. Every group has them, radical Christians make it seems like you can’t have faith and be gay, or have sex before marriage.
    I’ve said it before that anyone who wants equality for men and women is a feminist, or more accurately, a humanist (which I am starting to personally identify with), whether they are a man, woman or dog.
    Thank you for your comments!

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